How to Help Someone Quit Smoking

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Smoking is a serious and complicated addiction, and quitting is hard. Most people who successfully quit do so only after several attempts, and with a lot of help from family and friends. Here are some ways you can support someone who is trying to quit smoking.

Talk the talk

  • Respond positively when your friend or family member makes a comment about quitting. Tell them you think it’s a good idea and you will support them. If you are an ex-smoker, tell them how quitting has helped you.
  • Bring up the subject yourself. Ask if they’ve ever thought about quitting.
  • Ask questions to help you understand why they started smoking, what makes them crave cigarettes, why they want to quit, and what you can do to help.
  • Listen to their answers.
  • Don’t judge, nag, preach, tease, or scold.

Walk the walk

  • Put together a quit-smoking kit with chewing gum, hard candy, a stress ball, toothpicks, and a water bottle to help your friend or family member deal with cravings.
  • Plan smoke-free activities such as taking a walk, watching a movie, taking a class, going to a concert or sporting event, or eating out.
  • Help with cooking, cleaning, child care, or other chores that will help them lighten the stress of quitting.
  • Celebrate successes – big and small – with compliments, a card, flowers, a gift, or just doing something nice.

Dos and Don’ts

  • Do respect that your friend or family member is in charge. This is their lifestyle change and their challenge, not yours.
  • Do try to see it from the smoker’s point of view – a smoker’s habit may feel like an old friend that’s always been there when times were tough. It’s hard to give that up.
  • Do remove anything from your home and car that’s related to smoking, including lighters, ashtrays, and odors. Wash clothes, carpets, and anything else that smells of smoke.
  • Don’t take grumpiness personally during their withdrawal from nicotine. Symptoms usually get better in about 2 weeks.
  • Don’t be too hard on them if they relapse or slip. Be positive, understanding, and supportive.
  • Don’t smoke around a smoker who is trying to quit. If you can, join them in the effort. It will help them, and it will also help you.

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